Be My Guest
02/22/2012A couple of weeks ago, some dude came to the jiu-jitsu academy to take a couple of free classes. He took the Muay Thai class followed by the Beginner’s Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu class. We have a lot of guys do this from time-to-time.
This gentleman practiced another martial art. Kung fu. He wore his sash.
It caught the attention of several of us senior guys in the school:
“Is that a sash that he’s wearing?”
“I think it is.”
“Does the Professor know?”
“I don’t think so.”
“Should we tell him?”
“I think we should talk to the dude.”
Now let me say this, I’m certain the guy wasn’t being disrespectful. Not in the least. But why he wore his kung fu sash in a jiu-jitsu school, I have no idea.
One of our guys politely talked to him. He put the sash away. End of that part of the story.
Most people might think it’s silly, but there is a tradition going back to Brazil that you don’t wear another school’s “colors” while visiting another school. By colors, I mean your school’s patches on your gi or a rashguard with your school’s logo on it. A lot of the schools here in America have brought that forward; ours is one.
Don’t wear someone else’s gi to our school. Our senior guys will look at you funny. The Professor will take offense.
This guy didn’t wear another school’s uniform, but he did wear his rank around his waist. That is akin to me going to a Judo school or a karate school and wearing my jiu-jitsu purple belt. Silly. I’m not going to do it. I will tell the instructor what I do, what my rank is and who gave it to me. And I will tie my kimono jacket tight with a white belt unless the instructor tells me otherwise.
Similarly, when visiting another school, I’m not going to wear my gi that has my academy’s logo all over it. I’m not going to do it. It’s in poor taste. I do think it’s disrespectful — but maybe I’m tiredly old school.
Case-in-point, this winter I accompanied my instructor to two academies. He went there to teach. Both academies are run by his friends — we are loosely affiliated with them.
I didn’t bring my gi emblazoned with my instructor’s name. I didn’t even wear one of my school’s t-shirts under my gi. Personally, I just feel it’s a bit disrespectful to the school I’m visiting. Don’t ask me why. It just is.
I did, however, put on one of our t-shirts after class and worry it out to dinner with the students from the other school.
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Here are some of the Rules of Etiquette I use when visiting another school:
- Show up early;
- Make sure you and your uniform is clean, and your nails are clipped;
- Talk to the instructor (if you haven’t already) and tell him your level of experience and a brief history;
- Don’t wear your colors. If it’s all you have, explain it to the instructor. He may not be happy and, depending on the school, you may be a mark. And then you’ll have to take your beatings — you’ve been warned;
- Warm up with the class. Don’t stand in the corner futzing with your belt;
- Don’t roll hard or strong! It’s not the Olympics. Be cool. It may even be wise to roll light to begin with and let your rolling partner tap you a couple of times. It’s not a big deal;
- If you wind up rolling with someone who you are obviously better than, do not submit him over and over and over again. Just roll with him. Again, be cool;
- Don’t ask to roll with anyone. Let people approach you. As far as I’m concerned, when asked, you’re not allowed to say “No”;
- Don’t be surprised that if you submit or dominate the first guy you roll with that the next guy won’t be so easy. If you submit him, then the next guy will be tougher. This will keep going until you get your ass kicked. Take the ass-kicking with humility and move on. They’ll respect you for that;
- If you come in with a chip on your shoulder, you can expect to get the toughest roll in the room, and he probably won’t roll nice;
- Thank everyone you roll with and;
- Say “Good-bye” and “Thank you” to the instructor.
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We had one of those guys visit our school once. You know, a guy who talks a bigger game than he can back up. You know it when it happens. Guys who know don’t really talk about it. He claimed a wrestling background and a couple of years of jiu-jitsu.
He said something like, “I can handle the Advanced Class” after our Professor essentially begged him to consider the Beginners/Fundamentals Class.
“No way,” he said. “I can handle myself with your advanced guys.”
Okay.
This poor guy. You can tell that he’s not quite there yet. His movements on the ground were choppy and halting. He was still mostly stuck to the ground.
The Professor didn’t want him to roll with the advanced guys. I’ll find someone you can drill with. “You can drill out the series I taught today. I’ll even get one of my guys to show you what I taught yesterday.”
Nope. This guy wanted to roll.
So the Professor let him. He was partnered with one of our submission hunters who was given the order to “Submit him.”
The poor kid got the full arsenal and was submitted time-and-again. Over and over. In five minutes. “Jim,” he told me later. “I ran out of jiu-jitsu.”
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On the other hand, we had someone visit the academy during open mat on Saturday. He briefly spoke to the Professor and was sent to the back to get changed.
While he was getting changed, the Professor came to a group of senior guys and told us, “This guy came from far away. He’s got some good training under his belt with some top notch instructors (American Top Team, Florida). Make sure you make him feel welcome.”
And we did. He rolled with a bunch of us.
When I left, he was sitting in a circle with about a half-dozen of our senior guys. Laughing. Comparing notes. Sharing techniques and stories.
This is how it can be and how it should be.
